We came back from our honeymoon at the end of last week, and Monday was a harsh return to reality (aka going to work instead of waking up on vacation). Looking back on my 14 months of wedding planning, here are my top three tips for all of you brides.
3. Let the little things go.
At the beginning I wanted the girls to have glittery gold shoes, and I was adamant that my younger sister wear flats so she wasn’t a head taller than everyone else. Looking back, I’m glad I insisted my sister wear flats, because everyone was a similar height; however, I put the girls in long dresses, in which it was nearly impossible to see their shoes. I could have just said “gold” and let that go.
2. Hire an amazing team.
I initially wanted to hire a wedding planner to help me plan the entire thing, but T jokingly asked if I could handle that – and he was right, I am a control freak, and that wasn’t going to work. What did work was having an incredible team, starting with the coordinator at our hotel. (I get that it may not be possible for all brides to choose who they work with at a hotel or similar venue, but if you don’t click with the first person you meet with, there’s no harm in talking with the other coordinator(s) at the same venue.) Aside from my awesome coordinator, I hired a makeup artist I trusted (she did my sister’s wedding last year), a hair stylist I knew would have my back, and a bakery that I want to visit on the daily.
It was hard for me to ask for help for a couple of reasons, one being that I have a hard time letting go. But I finally realized that there was only so much I could do without losing my mind. Surround yourself with a bridal party who will take things on with a smile. (Can we talk about how two of my bridesmaids appeared out of nowhere while we were doing photos just in case I needed someone to hold onto Sprout for a few minutes? A+ bridesmaids right there!)
Other things I figured out along the way:
- Plan out your vendor tips in advance, put them in envelopes, and delegate someone in your bridal party to hand them out.
- Google Docs. Use it. Shared spreadsheets for RSVPs will mean you aren’t answering a million questions about if so-and-so said they were coming to brunch or not.
- Feed your friends. I had breakfast available when the girls got there for hair and makeup, and I’m really glad I did. I felt bad asking them to show up before 7am, but having food there seemed to help!