A few weeks ago I used the “questions” feature in InstaStories to see what questions you all had for me. SO many of them related to being a mom that I thought I’d do a little Q&A post on motherhood! These were the top 3 questions that I want to share today. If you have other questions, definitely let me know!
picture from Eleanor’s baptism
When did you know you were ready to be a mom?
I don’t remember one day when I said, “Alright, I’m ready to be someone’s mom!” It was more that T & I knew that we wanted a family, which we talked about a lot before we got married (and since then! We’ve been married almost 4 years). Many of our friends have kids, so it was easy for us to think about what life would really be like with a little one in the picture. And we’ve done a lot of traveling – including a once-in-a-lifetime trip to Thailand – so we didn’t feel like we were waiting to do anything that we couldn’t do once we had kids. Both of us kept saying that we pictured ourselves with at least a couple of children when we pictured our future. And let’s be honest… neither of us is getting any younger!
It took us a little while to get pregnant, and with each passing month I remember feeling so sad that we weren’t yet looking forward to a due date. Those were some tough days, but the silver lining was that I was sure I was ready. So in short: I don’t think you ever really know until you know!
Who takes care of Eleanor during the day?
I work full-time but not in the same way I used to, which I’ll share in an upcoming post at some point. While in past years I’ve worked a 9-5 in an office, commuting back and forth, I now work mostly remotely. But taking care of a baby plus working isn’t doable, and we are lucky to have family to help out! My mom and T’s mom both watch Eleanor on set days during the week so that I can work. It’s definitely a “different” arrangement, but it works really well for us!
What’s the hardest thing about being a mom?
Oh gosh… I don’t know how to answer this! Right now I’d say that finding balance is really difficult. Especially where I’ve always thought of myself as a career woman, but now I have a super strong desire to be at home with my baby (and future babies-to-be). There are also a lot of expectations once you have a baby, and balancing our plans with what is expected is tough, too. And everything is just a little more difficult. Not in a bad way, per se, but everything from getting out of the house for a doctor’s appointment to packing for a flight takes more time, more planning, and more energy… at a time when you’re not sleeping through the night, you’re living on caffeine, and you have to write down everything or you’ll forget. I’m making it sound kind of awful, but I have to be honest: Once you have a baby, you don’t care that they wake you up twice every night or that they scream every time you get onto the highway. It’s almost like your identity changes overnight. You’re someone’s mom; they need you, and you just figure it out!